I've been the other woman for 7 years and its the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life... He has it all and knows it... The wife, family, the loving father, grandfather as well as the highly respected community member and of course his colleagues thinks he is great. Plus I have my own home so it doesn't cost him a cent for a motel etc... They don't know his dirty little secret... yet.. It has destroyed me so don't walk girls run the other way if you see a married man approaching...

Posted on 3/23/09 2:20 PM.

My first "other woman relationship" was exciting and fun until he to told me he was leaving his wife. Yikes! If I'd wanted that kind of commitment, I wouldn't have been with a married man. This was meant to be fun only. I ran...far...and he is still happily married.
My next "other woman relationship" didn't turn out so well. 1. He didn't bother to inform me he was married until after I fell in love. 2. This one did leave his wife...And it completely changed the relationship. Shortly after we moved in together, I wasn't so exciting anymore,... To top that I was never accepted by the in-laws who had known the 'ex' since childhood and the 'ex' delighted in a constant round of legal battles. A guess...he wanted out of his first marriage, but was too gutless to be alone. I gave him the opportunity to make the transition without the paying that price.
After seven years, I'd had enough. The only good thing that ever came out of that relationship was my kids.
My advice, if you must do it, do it for the fun and be ready to throw him back at the first sign of anything serious. If this man is too gutless to be alone, you don't want him. Babysitting is not why you're out there.

Posted on 3/25/09 2:43 AM.

Since Ole' Joe has departed back to Canada... oh the excuses!! I find his ex wife before me experienced exactly what he has put me through... I was much better off before I met him on the Net in 2006... He is a Deceitful Ole Man and leaves me wondering what diseases he may have left me with..I will be tested shortly for all STD asap..
All the games I realized he had played, and him tryng to make me think he love me solely. What a FARCE!!
As this one girl stated,, Dont Walk,, Run from this kind of Man.. you will learn how lucky you are to GO ON alone, rather than be the other woman..
I hope some woman/young girl reads this, and realizes what he is doing with her emotions..

Posted on 3/25/09 4:34 AM.

I have been the other woman for 11 yrs.. and I have everything I want. I am a career woman with a high powered job, not much more time and a fast dinner and great sex. I like this, wouldn't change it. He is very good to me, gifts, trips and great lover. I don't want marriage, and would never want to live with a man full time, I like my personal space. So it can be wonderful for some, and his wife needs never to worry, I don't want him, marriage or kids.

Posted on 4/1/09 4:58 PM.

Kelly Jones has watched too many movies - being "The Other Woman" can be all about power. How do I know? Because in my case, my "other woman" calls all the shots. I've been unhappily married for far too long and am in the process of leaving my wife. Out of the blue comes my other woman - 6 months ago we met and in short order she seduced me. She told me all the right things, made me feel like the problems I was having could be fixed by her and that I was justified in what I was feeling. (As a digression, I will be forever thankful for that - good or bad, she brought me back my self-worth (after my wife took it from me with years of criticism of my every move) because I was good enough for her to go after.) She was the kick I needed to realize there's better out there than what I have. Now, several months later, she will hardly return my calls and it's been two months since we hooked up, except for two quick lunch dates (which were only lunch) and God knows if/when I'll get to see her again.

The point of the above is that women are only as helpless as they allow themselves to be. My situation is a role reversal of the stereotype, in that I'm the one chasing, but as the poster from April 1st indicates, being "The Other Woman" can be exactly what some women want. Not all men are out to lie and sneak their way into someone's life, as the article would suggest. And the men can fall from the tightrope just as easily as the women...

Posted on 4/11/09 4:39 PM.

There are a few types of "Other Woman." I am the type that does not want a relationship. I just want the sex and physical intimacy. I am very happy that he goes home to her. I see other men. But each of them brings me something that I would not otherwise have, and it is without the emotional ties that I really don't want. Yes ... a woman not seeking "love." Imagine that!

Posted on 5/24/09 6:29 PM.

If you can accept getting lied to and strung along, then go for it! In the end, the wife usually wants him gone, even though all he talks about is how she won't let him go. I've already kicked my husband out for almost a year and he begs to come home. No matter what they say...if they wanted to be with you, they would. END OF STORY.

Posted on 5/24/09 11:35 PM.

Some of you are very heartless. Thats all there is to it. You feel nothing for these guy's wives.

Posted on 10/27/09 5:35 AM.