Strangely enough, a lot of people end up losing their virginity during heated, unplanned circumstances. They are emotionally ready for sex, but they don't expect to get down to it in the back seat of a car on a pool table or in a friend's bathroom during a dinner party. While there's nothing wrong with these scenarios, holding off for a more ideal moment and location might make for better memories. Find a place where you can truly relax and where there's no fear of being interrupted. You want to have the freedom to take your time. If you can't be alone where you live, consider renting a hotel room for the night or arrange for a weekend getaway.

 

Once you're sure you won't be disturbed, think about how you can set the mood. Play music that puts you at ease (preferably not a short album that will fall silent just as things are getting hot and heavy), light some aromatherapy candles and have on an outfit -- and undies -- that make you feel like a hottie. Make sure your partner knows that this is going to be your first time so they can help make it special.

 

Once things get rolling, take your time getting to actual intercourse. LOTS of foreplay is key, for a woman especially, because the vagina can be dry and tight when she's nervous (lube can help with this if foreplay does not). Finally, don't you dare dip into doing it without condoms: just because it's your first time doesn't mean you can't get pregnant or contract an STI.

 

In a word: again. It's likely that your first time didn't fulfill any fantasies. Ninety per cent of first times don't. So jump back in the sack and try it again. Every time you do, it'll feel better. You'll start to discover what you like and what feels good. And, more importantly, you'll get better at making sure you get it.