Terah Kathryn Collins, author of the Western Guide to Feng Shui for Romance and founder of the Western School of Feng Shui, says that often when she does a consultation at a single client's home, the house is set up reflect a one-person only abode and is helping them to stay that way.

 

The first place to consider when attempting to correct the Feng Shui of your home is the boudoir. Is your bedroom set up to accommodate another person or does it scream out solo abode? Having just one nightstand and a lonely lamp next to the bed or having the bed pushed against the wall so that another person couldn't get in even if they wanted to, is great Feng Shui… for those who wish to stay single.

 

If you want to attract another into your life, there needs to be room for them to be in it. "The key is to act as though the partner you are looking for is already here and to live like that," says Collins.

 

Any art that emphasizes the solitary life gives your house the wrong kind of energy. "One client of mine had a picture of a woman sitting alone drinking a glass of wine, looking very forlorn. It was blatant Feng Shui in reverse, she was holding what she didn't want in place," says Collins.

 

Men and women, she says, commonly have certain things that they do which are bad Feng Shui for attracting and keeping the opposite sex.

 

Single women's bedrooms are often so overly feminine that they scare men away, says Collins. "There will often be way too many pillows on the bed and layers of lovely linens which are scary to men. We want to be able to fall in to a bed without having to remove 20 pillows first, so the spontaneity of romance can occur without all these barriers."

 

Conversely, it's often the sparseness and lack of attention to detail in men's rooms that is off-putting to women. "Men will have these awful 25 thread-count sheets in a really bad color or they will have this awful bright lighting that does not help a woman feel sexy," says Collins.

 

"What we need to do is grow the room up, which for women usually means that they have to put things away and simplify the room, whereas single men will often have to improve the quality," says Collins.

 

Besides growing the room up by getting rid of all the frou-frou crap that scares men away or investing in a new set of sheets that won't scratch up your date's face, Collins advises getting rid of any residual objects or bedding etcetera from a previous relationship.

 

"You don't want to continually keep that guy or girl alive in your space. Make sure that there's not a bunch of memories from a horrible divorce or relationship," she says. "Everything in your bedroom should have pleasantly nurturing associations."

 

Once you've cleared the room of anything that supports staying single, Collins advises adding objects into the space that will increase levels of positive romantic energy. You can start by selecting the right kind of artwork.

 

The kinds of pictures that we place in our bedrooms are very important to the Feng Shui of the room and should reflect what we are looking for, i.e. coupledom. "There should be a part of it that is depicting two animals being together, two trees planted close together, or even two people. You need to find romantic art that you like and really resonates with you," says Collins.