It's more intellectual and professional to ask someone out for coffee, but less romantically serious.

 

Tea drinkers are more conservative, more egalitarian, or. . . it's a mean thing to say, but maybe they're just more vanilla. Coffee people are going to be more nervous and high-strung. Energy-drink people, who knows?

 

 

Oh, yeah, totally. Why not? It's a fun little experimentation with someone else's habits.

 

I think you have to tell him. It could bring you closer together to share that side of yourself.

 

Feet. I've never experienced the foot thing, but people seem to talk about it a lot.

 

You can't do anything. Your friends get pissy if you start talking about how you don't like their men. You can say something, but you can't keep saying things, because that's going to hurt your friendship. But don't forget her. Be there for her. She'll figure it out.

 

 

 

I always look in the medicine cabinet and see what drugs are in there. I wouldn't use someone's hair products, because they just mimic what not washing your hair does anyway.

 

I see so many hangovers. I want orange juice in the morning. A blowjob maybe. In that order.

 

Coffee is much more casual and not really very romantic. You're not going to get drunk in a coffee bar and go home and have a one-night stand, but that could easily happen in a bar bar.

 

Food fetishes. They're kind of gross, I think.

 

I think it's a tie between the back of the neck and the back of the ears, strangely enough.

 

Safe words. Sometimes you're into something and then suddenly you're not! It's good to feel safe.

 

 

 

It's the same. I see it a lot here. Coffee dates can mean a lot.

 

I guess you have to equate skill with attentiveness in either case. Attention to detail, someone who cares. So I think the skills do translate.

 

Oh, I have a lot of experience with this because I'm a smoker. I keep a lot of Binaca and gum around me at all times. It's totally on the smoker to make himself appealing and attractive. If I'm with somebody that minds, I just won't smoke, or I'll chew gum, or do whatever to not smell like cigarettes. It's my responsibility to her.

 

Oh, that should be cool. I hope that's cool. I've done that.

 

I think the girl's partner would be open to discussing it. He might want to watch. For whatever reason, it's much easier for girls to get away with stuff like that. I would discuss it with him first. Probably everything will be fine. If he's not open to it, she should cheat. It's still open season and she can settle down once she's married.

 

I can speak from experience and say yes. Definitely.

 

 

 

If you just talk to him, he'll talk to you. If he's a barista, chances are he's on the bored side, or the grumpy side. Smile and say hi.

 

Absolutely. If you've used their bed, you can use their hair products.

 

Can I choose neither? Both of those scenarios are terrible.

 

Coffee's a much more serious date, because that person is planning on having a real conversation with you, without the veil of alcohol. They want to see the real you.

 

I agree that the smell of coffee is a turn-on. But I really couldn't say what other smells are a turn-on because I smell like coffee all the time. It permeates everything.

 

That's great! I used to be in that situation. I was the girlfriend, and now I'm dating my best friend. It worked out for the better because my best friend, who's now my boyfriend, didn't give up. But it was a year of hell in between. I definitely say go with the better person, and the better person is probably already your best friend. They know you better, treat you better. I had to listen in the end. So, don't give up, that's what I say to him. And to her I say choose the better person.

 

 

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