Force yourself to step back and regroup. Take a day off, two days off or even a week -- whatever it takes to get out of your head. As long as you have the same self-sabotaging thoughts rattling around in your noggin, you'll never get the distance you need to stop pushing away your new date.

If you're spending a lot of time obsessing about the other person's needs, you're probably neglecting yourself. So if you take time out to treat yourself -- be it a yoga class, a bubble bath, a long walk -- you'll find your center again and (hopefully) stop burning so much energy trying to please the other person.

 

Reminding yourself of what you really want from life will help ground you. And you won't be as likely to use up every last ounce of self respect to make something work that may not be right for you.

 

When you feel yourself heading down a path of obsession, call a friend and not just any friend but a friend who knows you well enough to call you on your shit (in a loving way of course).

 

After following steps one through four, you need to figure out whether you want to continue this relationship and explore ways that won't cause you so much anxiety -- this may not be possible. In fact, it may be time to throw in the towel because the dynamic is just not healthy for you.